Monday, January 23, 2012

January 23rd

I would have to say that the hospice has become almost a second home. Lanita has been telling us that she's in 'no-man's land'. Everyone's been wondering the state she's in and how things are going and so I will try to fill you in the missing blanks since my last update. I do have to say that the kids have settled in very well at home. Routine is great (even if it is always fun)! It is amazing what a difference an extra pair of hands make around a house, but things are into a pretty good rhythm. The alarm clock squawks away at 5:50am, porridge made, kids get rolling. The bus screeches to a halt at 7:10 for Makaela, Caden dashes off to catch his bus at 7:25, and I roar off in the truck at 8:10 with Damon and the neighbour kid. In the midst of it all, we seem to get all the other things done, (Just like all you great moms out there), things like teeth brushed, hair done, dishes put away, and things tidied up. Ok, once in a while a bed or two might not get made but all in all, i'm pretty proud of what does get accomplished! Try to hit the doors to the hospice by 9:30 to see my beautiful wife and see what kind of night she had. There is no predicting anything. Generally she's a little more awake in the beginning part of the morning. She will often have a few bites of porridge as her breakfast, and Lunches will often consist of a popsicle stick or two. Somedays it seems that she just can't get her eyes to open and then there are other days when she will have a few "awake" periods for an hour or two. Each day is one of those 'what have we got today' days, but we love her just the same! She has 4 butterflies on her (not the tattoo's type), where they inject her for her meds. One on each arm, two in the abdomen. The nurses have done a fabulous job at getting the nausea under control and also in keeping one jokester husband in line! I'm finding the patients to be quite interesting people in many different ways and often there is something going on that humors the day. It makes you glad that when you do put first things first, these times aren't times of distress, fear, or anxiety. God truly has been a God of great comfort and it is wonderful to reflect on the point that God has always given so much more than he has ever taken. There is no better hands to be in than 'God's Hands'. We don't know what the plan is for God's timing but know it has always been perfect. This experience has shown so well the spirit of our servants, the spirit of his people, and drawn us not only closer as an 'eternal family' but also unveiled so many more of God's pictures that were either veiled, unknown, or maybe just not as clear as they should have been. I know I have said it many times, these aren't only rich times, they are enriching. Anytime we are forced to stop and  look into our own hearts and souls, getting a realignment done, so that we could be ready for when our time comes, is a precious gift. Each day is unique. Some days we get greeted with the smile of Lanita's brown eyes, sometime's she is only to smile with her pearly whites, but no matter what her state is that day, we always get greeted with a kind, gracious, and thankful spirit. If you come to visit, and say a few minutes of hello, the family will always let you know the state she is in. Oh, and by the way, the coffees's always on!

7 comments:

  1. Between this post Eldon, and the photos you posted tonight (Lanita's beautiful smile in every one!), I can hardly keep the tears from flowing. How is it, when we all wish so badly to offer some sort of comfort to you, that it is you in fact that is offering comfort to us?

    "It makes you glad that when you do put first things first, these times aren't times of distress, fear, or anxiety" - that this is your experience gives me such joy, and you'll never know what a testimony those words are to me.

    Keep up the great work Mr. Mom! We are praying for you every step of the way.

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  2. We love your updates Eldon and think of you everyday. You bring tears to my eyes and thankfulness to my heart. We love to read of your accepting and courageous spirits. Big hugs to you, your beautiful wife and your children!
    With love,
    Damon, Krystle and kidsss

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  3. Thank you, Eldon. You do so very well! What a woderful spirit of love, acceptance and gratitude you share.

    A hymn from the Redemption Hymn Book:
    "I know my Heavenly Father knows
    The storms that would my way oppose,
    But He can drive the clouds away,
    And turn my darkness into day.

    Refrain:
    He knows, He knows - the storms that would my way oppose;
    He knows, He knows, and tempers ev'ry wind that blows.

    I know my heavenly Father knows
    the hour my journey here will close,
    And may that hour, O faithful Guide,
    find me safe-sheletered by Thy side,
    Find me safe shelter'd by Thy side."

    "Whether sad or joyful, Jesus understands."

    I am sure, as the scenes of this earthly scene fade, Lanita, that you see the Heavenly things clearer - the joy and the peace of drawing close to the One who has given Himself for us.

    With lots of love to all,
    from Bev & Doug and Joyce Hazlewood
    Noth Queensland, Australia.

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  4. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

    Love,

    Christine and Tim

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  5. Great work on the home front Eldon! Sounds like you are taking it all in stride. There is no doubt that routine works like magic for kids!! Give Lanita a hug from us! Our Love and prayers...Jason, Julie and kids

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  6. Eldon great job!! Thanks so much for updating the blog, we've been wondering so much how Lanita is doing now. We are thinking about you and praying for you. Your updates are so encouraging, to get a little glimpse of what you are being given in this hard experience, amazing.
    Take good care of yourself and each other!
    Richard, Megan and kids.

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  7. Eldon and Lanita
    I haven't met you Eldon, but Lanita, I stopped in to see you with Carolyn from up the hill a few years ago and I am Benita's mom. She has been keeping me up to date and gave me your blog connection. I found this poem, written by George Walker that I wanted to send along to you because I have heard from others nearing the journey's end that the devil gets more agressive because he realizes that his time is running out.
    I thought maybe it could be a little extra encouragement. Our thoughts are with you often and your journey has been a reminder to me that I need to be more serious in my service and have a deeper commitment to what matters most.

    TAKE ME THE REST OF THE WAY

    Dear Lord Thou has brought me this far on the way
    Through battle and storm, through sorrow and tears,
    Not once have Thy promises failed to be true,
    Thou has kept me in spite of my doubts and fears.
    And oh! It is thankful this heart that I bow
    Before Thee again imploring Thy care,
    To keep me and take me the rest of the way
    Then with the faithful,Thy glory to share.

    Thou knowest how weary the flesh can become
    But let not my spirit diminish it's zeal,
    But like Thine own word, keep it living and real.
    And when in that hour temptation is greatest
    Then turn back the flood that would carry me down.
    Let me enter the door Thou has opened for me,
    Help me hold fast that I lose not the crown.

    Oh, so sad it would be if after these years
    Of proving Thy power that's greater than all,
    I'd stray from the shelter of strength Thou has been
    To be overcome just short of the goal.
    Ah no, I'd still make Thee my strength and my song
    And for Thy salvation continue to pray
    Dear Lord thou has kept me in days that are past,
    Keep me and take me the rest of the way.

    **********
    The second stanza seems to be missing a line but this is what was given to me.It still says it all and we pray for you to be kept the rest of the way Lanita

    In God's care.....Janet Sauve

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